When we incarnate onto this earth we choose to have an individual experience, a separate identity. It’s what makes you different than someone else. The ego is what makes us experience a separate self and we are able to have an individual perspective (the lens that you see the world through). Ultimately, we come from the same source and there is no separation between you and another. But since we are in a human body we are temporarily experiencing life in a separate form. But what makes us have a separate experience? What makes us experience life in a different way than others?
If we zoom out of our individual perspective and look at life from a higher point of view then we can see that what makes someone an individual or different than someone else, is our thoughts and our thoughts influence our emotional state and so how we feel about our lives. And our emotions dictate the vibration that we will be emitting and so what we attract into our life experience.
Why are your thoughts and emotions everything in life?
You want to master your thoughts and emotions since they make up your perspective and your perspective is making you decide what actions you take every day. Your perspective tells you what you value and what not, what you desire and what not. And what you do every day will create a life that you like or not. If you are not aware of your thoughts then you’re living by default, meaning you’re not consciously creating your life. And you’re are not living in a state of personal freedom or empowerment. If you want to change your reality then you want to choose different thoughts to think. This will change your behavior (the actions you take and routines you have) and this will change your emotional state which then creates a vibration or frequency (same thing). And this frequency is attracting the things in your life that you are a match to (wanted or unwanted things).
Observation comes before thoughts and emotions
At this moment in time most people on the planet are not aware that they are thinking thoughts and what they are thinking about really. Thoughts are not something that you think and that the brain comes up with. The brain receives the thoughts. Most thoughts aren’t your own, you pick up on them from your environment. Without thoughts we would just BE. We would be living in the present moment and this is our natural state of being.
If we take it a step backwards even more, then the first skill we actually need to master is OBSERVATION. This is step number one for most. You can’t consciously perceive of your thoughts or emotions if you don’t observe. Even when we think we are observing, we might actually be slacking and super identified with our thoughts and emotions.
The moment we are identified with our thoughts and our emotions we are fully IN our life experience. There’s nothing wrong with being fully emerged into the physical. But when being identified with our human life too much, it creates our stress and suffering. We suffer because we are so identified with our past and what happened back then that we are dragging the past with us. We can’t let go, because we are too identified. We are caught up in the stories of our thoughts and the emotions that it brings up.
The moment we learn to dis-identify from our thoughts and emotions is when we can choose something different and create resolution with the past, present and future. When we do this, we can attract different things and we can change our lives.
You don’t have to be afraid that dis-identification (observing) is a state of suppression. It’s more so creating momentum where you can see what you’re thinking and how you are feeling. You bring awareness (light) to your thoughts and emotions so that you can acknowledge them. And then the next step is to improve your life experience and focus on what you do want.
If observation doesn’t work for you then you might actually need to start observing the observer. This may actually get you into the ‘normal’ observer state that you want to practice. Practicing observation seems to be forgotten or not seen as an important skill. But observation is a major power!
Changing your thoughts
A belief is a thought that has been thought over and over again that became a belief. And choosing different thoughts may take some effort after years of thinking the same thoughts.
According to research we think more than 6000 thoughts every day (some other researches show even more than that). Can you imagine how much work it is to change every single thought?! Can you see how much work it is to change core beliefs into new beliefs that you actually want to think?! And can you see how these thoughts that you think every day make up your reality?
The good thing about this is that you can always change your thoughts every second of the day. Nobody else chooses thoughts for you. You can choose new thoughts. Even when you have been thinking thoughts for forever, you can always choose to change them. You are not a slave to your thoughts or your emotions. They don’t control you. You choose. You can think of a lemon right now…and now you can think of a lime. See how fast you can change your focus? If you notice thoughts that you don’t want to think, it’s just as easy to think about something else.
‘You are so limitless you can choose to hold a perspective of limitation’ – Glacia Rain
Essentially what you can think about is limitless. This also means that you are free to belief anything that you want. But be aware to not get trapped in fantasy land at the same time! There are things that are the ‘reality’ in this world right now. That’s important to acknowledge as well. Let’s say you belief you can fly (levitate) without any equipment. That is a limitless way of thinking. But if you look at the reality of our lives here on earth, flying without any equipment is not possible (yet). It’s not possible since most people don’t belief it’s possible, which then creates a collective belief and this results into the reality that we are living in. But either way you have total freedom to think about whatever you want to think about. What you think and what you focus on is important for your own life and to have a life experience that you say ‘yes’ to.
And your thoughts and focus are also important for the entire world since we can create a positive or negative impact on each other. What we experience in our life also involves other people. The thoughts that we choose are going to subconsciously or consciously be perceived by others and that will give them a feeling about you (good or bad). And this has an effect on their lives as much as it has an effect on yours.
This is also when mirroring comes into play. We mirror each other whether we like it or not. When you feel loved, people will love you more or you attract people who love themselves as much as you love yourself. This also goes for the negative things that we think about. If you feel bad about yourself, people will feel that as well and adjust their behavior towards you in a way that matches your vibration. It’s a natural thing people do in order to establish a (harmonious) connection.
Be aware of bypassing
It’s fun to be able to think in limitless ways, you may feel like a kid in a candy store. But be aware you always want to acknowledge the thoughts and emotions that are coming up to the surface (by observing) before you change it. If we don’t acknowledge it first and just choose different thoughts right away (aka positive focus) but they don’t feel true to you, then you are bypassing and suppressing.
Our thoughts and emotions always have something valid to tell us, even if it’s negative and doesn’t feel good. If you can stay in the observer perspective and acknowledge your thoughts and emotions then you will not experience them as negative but you can stay neutral instead. And you don’t need to control your thoughts or emotions either, you only need to learn how to listen.
Resolving resistance by processing emotions
Let’s take it a step further. When we do come up with new thoughts and focus on what we do want to think and we still can’t seem to create the life experience that we want to have, then there is resistance involved.
Let’s say you are gaming a lot of hours every day but you want to find a new apartment and you can’t seem to change your behavior and go search for an apartment. You just keep gaming and days go by and you still haven’t found a new apartment. Then your live experience is not reflecting what you want. That means there is a part of you in resistance to taking that action.
That also means emotions are coming up (a trigger) that blocks you from changing your life experience. This is the moment when we need to learn how to process our emotions and do shadow work. We want to deal with resistance before we do anything else. We want to resolve the inner conflict in order to get to where we want to be. We need to do this as long as we need to and as often as we need to, if we want to create the desired outcome and ‘master’ our life.
In short
To make it short and simple…You can perceive of your life experience through all your senses and this includes your thoughts and emotions. They are senses too! You want to practice observation (step 1) in order to dis-identify from your life experience. And when you observe your thoughts and emotions you can see them, which is another way of saying you become aware of them (step 2). And that’s where your power lies.
The moment you become aware of what you think and feel by practicing observation, is the moment you can choose a different thought and take a different action from a state of awareness (step 3). And this new thought or behavior is going to bring you into the direction of the life you want to live. This is how you create the life experience that you want to have.
But be aware, this is a lot of work and not a quick fix. You need to stay committed, practice and be patient. If we want to have success in life and feel empowered over our lives we need to master our thoughts and emotions.
Until next time.
With Love, Naomi
P.s. if you want to learn more about shadow work I recommend reading my other blog ‘Shadow Work 101 for Beginners‘. And two other blogs that go really well with this topic is ‘What causes us to choose a different meaning to the same experience?’ and ‘The One Skill That Humanity Has Forgotten To Use…’
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