Some Things You Want To Know About Love

Love is a very popular topic for a very long time. We love, love! And it’s natural to love, love. And yet, we still don’t know much about love and how we truly love ourselves or another. This blog is a little bit of everything but all love related short topics you want to know about love. Maybe things you already know and some more ‘updated’ things you may not know about love. Let’s dive in…

What is love?

Love is everything in existence. Love is a frequency that never dies, it’s infinite living light. The frequency of love is your mother and father. Love is what you are made of. Love is in every cell of your body. Love is beyond the physical plane that we know. Love is in the good and bad things we experience. Love is always there even when you don’t feel it.

How do we show love?

Some ways we show love to each other are through the 5 love languages which are: physical touch, quality time, acts of service, words of affirmations and gifts. You can feel loved through all 5 love languages but there is always one maybe 2 that makes you feel loved the most.

For example, your partner is doing the dishes for you (acts of service), which you appreciate but you don’t feel incredibly loved by it. But when you partner is giving you a gift, you light up inside and it gives you such a warm, cozy, sparkling feeling. That’s a sign that receiving gifts is your primary love language. You may also like to give love through a different love language then you personally like to receive love. Maybe you love to give someone your quality time, but you rather receive love through physical touch.

We show love naturally when we take someone or something as a part of ourselves. The moment that you give someone a gift or when you do something for someone, or when you give someone a compliment, what you are actually doing is taking someone as a part of yourself. And on the opposite side, when we feel separated from the world then we don’t take someone or something as a part of ourselves. That’s why some people can easily hurt someone. They just don’t take someone as a part of themselves. This is about the concept of ‘oneness’. What you do to someone else is what you do to yourself!

We show love in many different ways. The simplest compliment or the tiniest gesture is love. You even sent love to a person when you feel it inside your body and it might even be subconscious! So, there are more ways to show love than just the 5 primary love languages.

Out with the New and in with the Old

There are many distortions around love as well. And we can go back and forth around all kinds of love and relationship issues, but there’s something to known about the energetics of love between a man and a woman. Or the feminine and masculine energies we all have within.

For example, there is a dating app called ‘Bumble’ and it’s designed for woman to make the first move. There seems to be nothing wrong with this at first sight. It’s modern, why not right? But if we look at the organic or original functioning of the feminine and masculine energy, the masculine energy is the initiator and the penetrative energy. It’s a forward movement energy and so organically the man is supposed to make the first move. And a woman is supposed to receive that initiative originally (if she wants to receive it).

Receiving is a feminine aspect (which men also have). But in order for a man and woman to be in balance they want to ideally operate according to how they are originally designed. This is what we call ‘old school’ and it should actually be ‘new school’ again. Lots of things in this world has been twisted around to create an unbalanced society. This is just one tiny example of them. An example most people consider normal and most don’t question the underlying message. Do you?

Is love an illusion?

Something important to realize for people in general is that we all have a different perspective of the world and our individual lives. We only know how someone perceives the world if we are literally walking in their shoes. And so, we have to realize that some people live a perspective where love is an illusion! For them love doesn’t exist and for them love isn’t real. For these people their connection to love has been ‘polluted’ so to speak, due to trauma, programming etc.

Perceiving love as an illusion is a very painful and disconnected state and absolutely not true! Love is the only truth and it’s the frequency that’s running through our veins, even when we don’t feel it anymore. As a child we are very connected to love but as we grow older that connection starts to change and even forgotten! For some more than others.

The good news is we can get our connection to this love back. And honesty love is always there, it’s just a matter of tuning back in. We only need to choose it and peel away the layers from our hearts in order to feel love again.

Love = Maturity

It’s been programmed into men that they have to be strong, tough and show now emotions. So, when it comes down to love it’s been indoctrinated (subconscious social cues) to show a sign of weakness. To love deeply seems to arise shame in men (and woman may too) since it’s not what ‘tough’ men do. To truly love a woman seemed to be perceived as weak and something to be ashamed about. Which is of course not true. So instead of receiving love, men had to become heartless in order to show how strong they are and not show any vulnerability.

Now the irony of this is exactly the opposite! To be an actual mature high valued men or woman then we need to show up from a state of love. We need to be connected to love 24/7 if possible. We need to act from a state of love. Speak from the heart. It takes a constant tuning into the body and feeling the heart in order to attain this. Love is the key to emotional and mental maturity. Love = mature, remember that.

It’s unnatural to withdraw from love

Another interesting thing that is not so known, is that men have the tendency to withdraw from love or flinch when they are getting showered with love. Even male cats! Why is this?

On this planet humans have been ‘attacked’ for many years. Overtime we have started to lose connection with our organic biology. Knowing that even a male cat has the same tendency to withdraw from being loved, just shows how deep the distortion goes. Not to say that woman don’t withdraw from love, but they seem to be less affected than men. Most women love to be adored, even when they don’t say it. But this distortion is very important to be aware of for our love life.

Now that we know love is true maturity we can start to allow love into our lives without shame and the tendency to withdraw from love. We need to give ourselves time to heal, to learn and to get back in touch with our organic state to truly attain a state of love. Love for ourselves and love for another.

Finding the other half

We all know the classic story by now of finding the other half to feel whole. But over the years we have learnt that it is only half of the story. It’s not about finding your other half in the external. Your other half is right inside you. It’s your inner feminine and masculine energy, which is what the other half is. Creating a balance within these energies is that wholeness that you are looking for inside. And when you feel ‘whole’ to some degree, you are not dependent on anybody else adding or taking from that wholeness inside. You will be living in a state of individualization.

That doesn’t mean you should not look for a partner as if that is a higher spiritual state to attain. The difference is in the energetics. Are you looking for someone else to fulfill you out of lack? Or are you looking for someone to add to your life and to add to their life while you feel whole within already?

On the other hand, it’s OK to want to feel loved by someone! Self-love is important but doesn’t it feel freakishly good to feel loved by someone as well? Both are true and important. In short, you want to start looking for yourself first and be your other half to become ‘whole’. And when somehow else does the same, you will be two ‘wholes.’ In other words, both people will be individualized. Which are two mature and healthy people that will be a positive force in this world.

Finding ‘the One’

Finding ‘the one’ is truly a program we learnt from the movies. But that doesn’t mean that ‘the one’ doesn’t exist. We only need a change of perspective. You have free will and you choose who you are going to spend your life with. That is ‘the one’ you choose and sometimes it doesn’t work out and then you choose another ‘the one’. This is a realistic way of viewing our relationships. And on the other hand, yes you may meet people that you were meant to meet. Even so, it’s your choice and your free will who you choose to spend your days with.

Not everyone will have the opportunity to experience true love in their lives. Even if you do experience true love, the human version of you has to filter that love and put it in a mental/emotion chamber in order to make sense of it. True love goes much deeper than human comprehension. To experience true love with someone else in this human life is rare, but not impossible. The easiest way to find your person, true love, your other half or ‘the one’, is if the person makes you feel like home.

True love with someone or not, source is an ever-existing love that is inside you that will never go away. We are an extension of source and so we are an extension of love and we have forgotten how love truly feels like. We have forgotten how it feels like to be home.

You have been programmed to look outside of yourself. And the whole time you are looking for yourself in another. You’re looking for your connection to source, the one that created you. The feeling that you are looking for is the love for yourself.

You are the love of your life.

So, who’s going to be your Valentine this year?

Until next time.

With Love, Naomi

P.s. I would highly recommend to also read my blog ‘Are we programmed to love someone else more than ourselves?’ as well as ‘Understanding the Feminine and Masculine Energies within’.

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