The grass is always greener on the other side. Who hasn’t heard that saying before? We can put anything on a pedestal like that next book, course, item, house, person, astrology, card readings or that one little piece of information. And there are things in life and even many things, like how we want our entire lives to be, that seems so hard to reach. And the things that seem hard to reach are the things that we subconsciously put on a pedestal. But what does it actually mean to put things on a pedestal?
It means to treat or view something or someone as extraordinarily good, successful and important. Now there is nothing wrong with putting things on a pedestal. We all put some things on a pedestal at times. There are many positive and negative reasons for why we put things on a pedestal. It’s a very good thing to admire things that we see in life. It may inspire us and excites us in life. But the downside of putting things on a pedestal is that we don’t belief or see ourselves as equal to have those things ourselves. The question is why do we belief that? What is the anchor that holds up that belief?
- Lack
When we have experienced a lack of things that we wanted growing up, we create the belief that we don’t get to have those things that we want or that things always seem to be hard to get. When we see that the grass is greener on the other side then we don’t believe that we can also have that thing someone else has. (Feeling jealousy is also about believing that you can’t have what someone else has). We might have seen other children or siblings have things and experiences that you never had. You might have been excited about getting something specific like a toy or the idea of going to a theme park but you never got to go. These events cause someone to view life as if everything is hard to get, because it never happened. And so, everything in their life is put on a pedestal!
When we desire something in our adult life there is this ‘past prove’ that holds up the belief that ‘this thing I want will never happen.’ Or this thing I want takes a long time to happen. Or only when I am older this thing will happen. Or things seem to get harder and harder in life the older I get. We now subconsciously postpone the things that we want because of these experiences of ‘not having’ it and so we keep putting it on a pedestal. And if we experienced this lack of what we wanted often enough, it creates a state of powerlessness over our lives.
- Powerlessness
When we experience the lack of not having what we want and we have the subconscious belief that it’s hard to get, we are marinating in the energy of powerlessness. Powerlessness is a very difficult and painful state to be in. We might feel like drowning our entire lives and never feel the relief of breathing in the air that we need. The longer we seem to not have what we want (or need), the harder things seem to actually get it (because the belief is, it never comes). And so, we become overwhelmed by life and life seems to be hard, difficult and stressful. When we keep feeling powerless over our lives then we keep putting things that we want on a pedestal. Things we believe we can never reach.
When we are feeling powerless over our lives we want to actually look at the things we do have power over. And doing this long enough will add up over time, which hopefully makes you see that you can have what you want. And actually, experiencing the things that we want (manifestation) is very healing. Since you’re experiencing the opposite and so the ‘wanted’ experience instead. For example, you put making videos on a pedestal and after you experienced how to make videos, you don’t put it on a pedestal anymore. You now know how that feels like and it becomes a ‘normal’ and familiar experience for you. And you will see it isn’t so hard to get after all. So, a great way to not put things on a pedestal anymore is to actually experience what you want to experience.
- High standards & Expectations
When we have high standards and expectations we will always keep putting things on a pedestal. When we always want more and more because what we have isn’t good enough, we keep putting the next thing and the next thing (and so on) on a pedestal. We may get what we want at times but we only temporarily feel good about our lives because we still have these high standards. And we again seek for the next thing to fill up our dissatisfaction.
Having high standards and expectations may be highly subconscious. And having high standards and expectations is not all bad. It also shows that you believe you deserve more in life, it shows that you are creative and ambitious about life and you have a mentality that says ‘the sky is the limit.’ But when these high standards and expectations are never attained and you feel bad about your life, then you need to lower your standards in order to actually feel happy and ease in your life. You may never feel relaxed or calm in your life because you’re always seeking for the next thing. These high standards or expectations will never lower if you don’t become aware of them first. Is it actually true? Do you have high standards and expectations of life? If so, what are they?
What to do when you put life on a pedestal?
- Become aware of your core beliefs and create resolution.
First you have to become aware of your beliefs and create resolution with these past experiences, especially around lack. And/or work with the emotions that arise if you don’t have a memory of these past events. After you created resolution it’s much easier to allow the things that you want into your life to happen naturally. Maybe this is all it takes because then you are in a state of surrender and things will align naturally for you at the right time.
If you want to go a step further then you want to consciously visualize and focus on the things that you want by feeling how it would feel to have that thing right now. But only after you truly created resolution! If you don’t create resolution first (and it might take a few tries) then there is still resistance. You are basically having one foot on the gas and one foot on the break and so what you want (and have put on a pedestal) will only take longer to arrive. We basically postpone our manifestations because we project it out into our future.
When there is resistance to having it (even though you know you want it) we put on the breaks right when it’s getting close to having it. And so, what we want stays in our future and doesn’t arrive. And so, for this you want to work with your beliefs and create resolution first.
And if you still feel resistance around having what you want. There is a subconscious belief that you will lose something else by having what you want. It might be a person, a house, a lifestyle etc. This is another reason to work with your core beliefs.
- Experience what you actually want.
The second solution to putting things on a pedestal, that is mentioned before, is to actually experience what you want. Find ways to experience the things that you want to experience. Go after your desires. And If that seems impossible then keep working on your beliefs in step one and find true resolution first. You may switch back and forth from becoming aware of your beliefs and creating resolution and then going after what you want and then go back to working on your beliefs again, and so on. You may keep doing this until you actually get to have the experience that you want. And keep in mind that having more life experience the older you get, will also assist you in not putting things on a pedestal anymore.
- Lower down high standards and expectations and start enjoying the simple things in life.
And the third remedy (also mentioned before) is to become aware of our high standards and expectations of life. And then consciously choose to lower down those standards and expectations and see if that makes our life experience better. If we lower our expectations in life we can truly learn to enjoy the simple things in life and appreciating the simple things again. This enriches our lives in many more ways than we might expect. And this is another great antidote for putting life on a pedestal.
There may be more reasons for putting things on a pedestal that aren’t mentioned here. Investigate within yourself as well about what your personal belief is. What makes you put life on a pedestal?
Until next time.
With Love, Naomi
P.s. you may also want to read ‘Why Thoughts and Emotions are everything in life and why you want to MASTER them.’
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